The play is going pretty well. I have been told that I need to do a cockney accent. Don't know what that is? Go watch My Fair Lady. Now come back. That's what I need to do. Or at least try to do. I've been working on it, and I think I will debut it tonight at rehearsal. It's really awful and really cringe-y, so wish me luck.
Some kid told Amazon the other day that she was 'The pretty sister'. She told me about this today, and we laughed about it a bit. What I was wondering about is what makes 'pretty ' these days. Is it because I don't make a super conscious choice to put effort into how I look? I often wear hoodies, converse, inside-out t-shirts (not on purpose, that just sort of happens with my laundry a lot) , and messy hair. I don't usually wear makeup. I'm not trying to say that this is the way to go; I like makeup, I like fashion, and I don't think that being super girly or super tomboyish is bad. I just sort of wonder about my tomboy-ish-ness sometimes.
When I first began growing out my hair again, I was really regretting it. I wanted my short hair really badly, and I was telling a friend about it.
M; I want to cut my hair short again, I'm not used to this!
D; No, don't, I want to see your long hair again!
M; Ugh, it was so gross back then! I want to try, but... ugh.
D; I don't know, I liked it. It was really straight, and really feminine. It might give you a bit more of an advantage.
M: Advantage where?
D:... I don't really know. Never mind.
I knew what they meant. I'm almost 16. There isn't a huge amount of pressure, but I'm still sort of expected to start dating and what not. I am interested, I'm excited to date, but do I have less advantage because I'm more tomboyish? What advantage? The advantage of having guys like me?
I guess I can't really believe that guys are that shallow. Maybe they are, I don't know, I'm not a 16 year old boy.
I think there is a lot of shaming for both being overly feminine, and being less so. If you are stereo-typically 'girly', and you like lots of glitter, and pink, and dresses, and makeup, etc. you are seen as shallow, high-maintenance, and prissy. If you are more of a tomboy, and prefer t-shirts, jeans, hoodies, etc, then you are seen as butch, lazy, and trying to hard to be 'one of the boys'.
I guess what I'm trying to say, is that neither has (or should have) more advantage over the other. We are girls. We like what we like. Everyone else can deal.
Maybe Amazon's new nickname can be 'the pretty one'.
(I'm going to keep teasing her about it, since she was the one in basketball shorts and tight ponytails till she was in 6th grade)
Take advantage of the day, readers.
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